Progress report:
I've gotten better at building joint jaw-advancement and tongue-retention devices -- the last one worked for two straight weeks before crapping out.
I had an in-lab sleep study at Stanford. They saw "mild sleep apnea", AHI of 5 and min sat of 92% -- just at the cutoff to even make a diagnosis. Got assigned another brand-new MD to review the test results. Said MD seemed skeptical that my waking problems could be caused by such "mild" apnea, skeptical that my jaw advancement devices made such a radical difference as I said they did, and irritated by my insistence that CPAP didn't help. I guess I'm not enough like what's in the textbooks. Nevertheless, I did obtain a couple of surgeon referrals -- Wolford and Movahed, at least, as well as another guy who's more of a general sleep surgeon, but, as I since discovered, does not himself perform jaw surgeries (only collaborates with other surgeons to do them). In the end I didn't even try to see A&G -- I don't have years to wait in line for this, and I got jerked around by their office for months when I tried to connect with them in advance of having these referrals.
I also got to talk, for the first time, with a surgeon who does actually perform bimax in the context of sleep disorders (Dr. Kasey Li). On the plus side, he thought my story made sense overall, believed me that the jaw advancement devices worked, didn't think I was crazy for pursuing jaw surgery (though obviously he could not guarantee results), agreed that there wasn't much of anything sensible left to try, understood that there are many people in my position who really can't go on living without something like this, said he regularly performs CCW with downgrafts, and sounded like he could fit me in before my insurance expires without putting me in braces for months beforehand. All great to hear.
On the downside, it sounds like it would be basically impossible to get any insurance to cover *any* surgery even while I still have it, even if my AHI were twice what it was, and I'd be on the hook for up $100k out of pocket. Also, he seems very much like a "I know what I'm doing, I'll work out all the technical details, take it or leave it" kind of guy. I tried to talk to him in particular about the specifics of the posterior downgraft -- what do you use as the bony shim, etc. He says he doesn't graft from other locations (like the hip) and didn't see why anybody else would -- he just takes little wedges of bone out of the nasal septum to fill the gap. This surprised me a lot, because it seems like that's a very thin bit of stuff to wedge into a spot that will bear the bite force of the molars (but I don't have a human skull here to examine, and he's the anatomy expert), and there doesn't seem to be enough bone available from that source to downgraft far enough for a significant rotation. I'd be interested to hear what other guys who do such rotations have to say about this proposal (and whether anybody here has an informed opinion about that technique).
I should know by the end of the week how soon I can get in to see the other surgeons.
Aside, a rant about health insurance:
If the insurance didn't approve this, I'd be charged $100k, but if the insurance approved it, I know *they* wouldn't actually have to pay out $100k -- that sticker price is only for individuals without the negotiating leverage of an insurance company. Imagine, hypothetically (and ignoring copays, for the sake of simplicity) that overall, for everybody actually involved in doing the procedure (surgeon, nurses, anesthesiologist, hospital overhead, etc etc), $30k total is enough to cover their costs and come out ahead (this seems in line with the ratio that hospitals actually collect from insurance when these things are approved). Suppose also that $50k is the most I can personally spend.
Then there are three scenarios:
(1) (Unlikely) The insurance negotiates with the hospital on my behalf and agrees to pay the $30k actual cost, and I have the procedure. The hospital is ahead, I'm way ahead (for having gotten the procedure that was worth $50k to me for free), and the insurance is way behind.
(2) (Most likely) Since the insurance doesn't want to be way behind, they fight me about it tooth and nail until my coverage expires, and I can't have the procedure. The care providers are behind (losing business they would have been happy to take from the insurance), I'm way behind cause my life is still f**ked, and the insurance company is slightly behind for having to pay somebody to argue with me during months of appeals.
(3) (Impossible dream of rationality) I could just agree to pay back the insurance company $31k (or whatever they pay + some margin), and *everybody* comes out ahead -- the hospital recoups their cost and then some, the insurance recoups their cost and then some, and I get something I'd have gladly paid more for.
Alas, it can never be.