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GJ

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Own Your Face
« on: July 28, 2019, 09:13:58 AM »
Millimeters are miles on the face.

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Re: Own Your Face
« Reply #1 on: July 28, 2019, 11:48:47 AM »
I saw this a LONG time ago and was torn. 

On one hand, accepting things you can't change is a healthy practice, psychologically speaking.

On the other, accepting something you could change but choose to accept out of fear of change, would be, in my eyes, weak.

can't help but feel for that speaker, though.

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Re: Own Your Face
« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2019, 12:44:41 PM »
On the other, accepting something you could change but choose to accept out of fear of change

He said he didn't change it because he might go blind. The quote was something like, "what good is looking normal if you can't see it?".
I'd say that's legit fear and not weak.

In an ideal world I'm sure he'd like to just look normal, but he does seem to have done a good job accepting his condition. The mind has to fool itself a bit to do that, I think? Then again, you see fat people on nude beaches and they have the attitude "this is me, and if you have any issue it's a you problem", so maybe you really can become so comfortable in your skin you truly don't care. That should be the goal for everyone. As we all know, the people who feel the need to make fun of deformities, fat, intelligence, etc, or anything else out of someone's control are the ones with the problems. Society might get this right one day.

I felt grateful for what I have while watching it, that's for sure.
Millimeters are miles on the face.

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Re: Own Your Face
« Reply #3 on: July 28, 2019, 07:45:03 PM »
Yes in his case, a 1/4 chance of blindness (hes describing the orbital box osteotomy) is a very real risk and the fear around that is well warranted. 

Everything he's saying is wonderful and insightful and I'm so happy for him that he is able to live a good life.  and I agree we should all strive for a certain level of acceptance of the way we look. But it has to be a horrible hindrance to one's social life. We are social creatures so I can only imagine how hard that is. Personally, I would have had the surgery, and probably a dozen or so more until I looked totally normal. Hell, I look totally normal now but im sitting around trying to get crazy surgery to look better. For people like me , that level of acceptance is probably more valuable than to people with consciously visible deformities.

Made me feel incredibly grateful for what I have aswell.