Men don't need forward projecting malars, nor is it particularly common. It's more about facial width.
I agree. You look perfectly fine to me. I don't know why any man would want more forward projection.
In any case, do the le fort 1 and bsso, and then evaluate. Do not take any more risk than necessary all at once.
I had bsso and that turned out horribly. So, focus on having the right plan and the right surgeon now. Do not worry about your mid-face as it looks perfectly fine on that picture.
I see that you are from Australia. Prof Heggie has a very good reputation around and he does zygomatic osteotomies if you want a second opinion on this.