No, you are misunderstanding. Maybe a better way would be to imagine a pyramid like Maslow's hierarchy of needs. At the very top, we can put 'true love', Prince Charming, and all that. Down at the base we have things like basic attention and recognition. My point is that while women don't always get Prince Charming, they at least get the base. An increasing number of men go with all of these needs (or wants) unmet.
I remember looking at a friend’s tinder account and it was so vacant and devoid of activity/ matches/ messages it felt like stepping inside a ghost town. Like all his matches were obvious fake accounts. And I had to tell him this.
It was honestly heart breaking, especially because he was playing it off like it was no big deal. So I know what you mean but bottom of the pyramid, basic interest, basic recognition. Some guys get none of it, and there are a lot of female monsters on tinder. He wasn’t good enough for any of them. He’s not ugly at all, no craniofacial deviations, just short I guess, not a big guy.